Today I’m 47 years old. If everything goes as planned, I’ll stay that way for the next 365 days.
I’m still young. Heck, I’m not even halfway done and definitely don’t pretend to have wisdom of the ages. But one thing I’ve realized up to this point is how very few things really matter in life. Most of the items I worry about never even happen.
When it’s all said and done, I’m pretty darn sure these 4.7 things will be just as accurate when I hit 100 years old as they are today.
My 4.7 at 47
1. Be honest with yourself.
If you can’t be honest and true with yourself, you can never be honest and true with anyone else. Over the last 47 years there have been times I have lied, stole, been mean and done things I wish I hadn’t.
I find every time I justify something to myself, it’s the first sign I’m wrong.
Overall, I know I’m a good person. But here’s a fact. I’m happiest and healthiest when I can look in the mirror and know I’m completely honest with myself and others.
2. Relationships are all that matter in life.
Money is nice to have, I’d rather drive a nice car than a crappy car. But at the end of the day, loving and being loved is the only thing that helps me go back to sleep when I wake up in the middle of the night.
Touching Megan’s arm or rubbing her back when I wake up at 2:23am is the only thing that soothes my soul.
3. Ignoring the opinions of others.
My friend Shane from high school used to say “opinions are like assholes, everyone has one”. It took a while for me to get to a place in life where I could care less what others think about my choices. But this is a destination where once you arrive, you’ll never go back.
Especially when I was younger, nothing was good enough or fast enough. I didn’t appreciate what I had, and only focused on what was next. It cost me my first marriage and the pain of not waking up with my two boys every single day.
There’s nothing wrong with achievement, drive or big goals. But every time I placed tomorrow in front of today, I’ve lost. Be grateful for today.
.7 Never ever stop.
My kids think I’m old, my parents think I’m young. Perspective is everything and time is bullshit. It’s not too late to start the new business, find the love of your life or travel the world.
If you have an idea, do it. Now. There are a million reasons not to, but don’t listen to them. Just do it.
I was going to include not carrying a large bag of kettle corn home from the farmers market while riding a mountain bike (hit curb, cracked ribs), but decided to let that one go, you gotta live…:)
So there you have it, my birthday 4.7.
This Week’s Podcast
Our habits dictate our lives, good or bad. Every habit is made up of 3 parts. A queue, a routine and a reward. Identifying the queue and reward will help change the routine or habit. Take a listen to this week’s podcast from Getting Things Done as host David Allen talks with author Charles Duhigg about his book The Power of Habit.
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